Vow- A solemn promise, pledge or personal commitment.
Wow. A solemn promise, pledge or personal commitment.
Sounds pretty serious huh? Not like a New Year's resolution that most of have forgotten about or given up on half way into the month. A solemn promise. A pledge. A personal commitment.
There's a movie coming out next week just in time for Valentine's Day. It just happens to be called "The Vow". It's inspired by true events, or so it says. It's about a beautiful, happy, young, married, couple (I highly doubt the whole based on true events there, but I'm jaded) who are involved in a tragic accident where the wife loses her memory. She totally forgets her husband. Everything about him. During the process of trying to re-win the love he once had he has to fend off an old suitor who lost out to him, as well as win back the love of his life. But he made "The Vow" to love her. I haven't seen the movie yet, so I don't know if they had special vows or not, but I'm sure this pretty much qualifies for the "In Sickness and Health" portion of most of the vows.
Needless to say, I will be in the theaters, paying an outrageous amount of money even for a matinee showing, bawling my eyes out and cheering for them to get back together.
My vow doesn't have to do with marriage. No. Like I said, I'm jaded. I don't really believe in marriage. I think it's an archaic tradition that people still do because they feel it's what's expected of them by societal norms. I've been there and done that, twice. I can assure you that other than getting me military benefits and a really nice divorce settlement it benefited me not at all. That piece of paper will not make a man any more faithful to his wife or a wife any more faithful to her husband than they would be without it. All it does is offer legitimacy for children and a way to ensure support for them. It simply makes it harder to leave when things have ended and makes Divorce Lawyers richer.
My vow is more personal.
I recently had a health scare and it brought home to me just how precious life is. It's funny actually, considering I nearly needed a heart transplant 20 years ago after the birth of my daughter. I guess I just didn't have the time to really think about it too much, the last few years.
You forget though, how fleeting life is, and how quickly life can be, if not taken from you entirely, changed completely.
I made the vow then, that solemn promise, personal pledge, to make sure that those few really special people in my life that I love, know how much I love and care on a constant ongoing basis. That I make the time each week to let them know I am thinking about them. It doesn't have to be much, a quick call, an e-mail, something. This is a big change for me so I'm not going to get it perfect every week, but I'm going to try.
Life is so short and so precious. What if, God forbid, something happened to me and they ever had a doubt as to how much they were appreciated or how much I loved or cared about them?
That's my Vow. What's yours?